A Rebuttal to EC Henry's video "How ONE LINE Fixes The Last Jedi"

A Rebuttal to EC Henry's video "How ONE LINE Fixes The Last Jedi"

If you haven’t seen E.C. Henry’s videos, I suggest that you check them out. He makes really great stuff - I’ve been following him for a while. Some of my favorite stuff from him includes Pacific 201 Show-and-Tell, how much tea Captain Picard drinks, and the size of that planet in the opening credits of Star Trek: Voyager.

In his most recent video, "How ONE LINE Fixes The Last Jedi", E.C. Henry argues that the biggest problem around the plot and story-structure was from Vice Admiral Amilyn Holdo’s role in the film, saying that her refusal to share her plan with anybody is seemingly irrational. I’ll take the reasons why this is incorrect in the order that he brings them up:

Bilingual Spanish Human Services Representative (HSR) posting is open!

Bilingual Spanish Human Services Representative (HSR) posting is open!

Noemi Alcocer – Community Based Service Development from Hennepin County wants to share this open position with you:).  Hennepin County is working hard to increase the number of HSRs who speak the languages most needed in the community and of them is Spanish, but please note that the posting closes Monday at 5 pm.  
We hope you will think about your networks and how you can share this news!

If you know interested individuals who are NOT bilingual Spanish or Somali speakers, the next general HSR hire will be posted in May.

Rebel Alliance Ranks - Explained

Rebel Alliance Ranks - Explained

In my review of The Last Jedi, I mentioned that the officer [Note 1] rank structure for the Resistance is canonically Lieutenant, Captain, Major, Commander, Colonel, General/Admiral (although Amilyn Holdo is a Vice Admiral and Nien Nunb is a Lieutenant Commander, but that’s not germane to this post). The Resistance is inspired by the Alliance to Restore the Republic (aka the Rebel Alliance), as the New Republic was unwilling to stand up to the threat of the First Order. I believe that the Resistance took its rank structure directly from the Rebel Alliance.

Super Bowl: Not so good for cities.

On Sunday, 04 Feb 2018, Super Bowl LII will be hosted in Minneapolis, Minnesota at US Bank Stadium (also known as that damn Sandcrawler [Note 2]). Up to 1 million visitors [20] [21] [22] are expected, and the NFL is projecting that it will bring $350-407 million [12] [20] [21] to our local economy. Hotels have been booked, tickets are being sold, and plans have been put into place. Areas of Downtown Minneapolis will be cordoned off, security will be enhanced, and Minneapolis will be a hub of activity for a short amount of time.

Dr. King's Final Speech: "I've Been to the Mountaintop"

Dr. King's Final Speech: "I've Been to the Mountaintop"

On April 3, 1968, at the Mason Temple (Church of God in Christ Headquarters) in Memphis, Tennessee, Rev. Dr Martin Luther King, Jr. gave his final speech. On the following day, King was assassinated. He was 39 years old.

The speech primarily concerns the Memphis Sanitation Strike. King calls for unity, economic actions, boycotts, and nonviolent protest, while challenging the United States to live up to its ideals. At the end of the speech, he discusses the possibility of an untimely death.

The GOP is not the Party of Lincoln - A Brief History. Part II: Progressive Boogaloo.

The GOP is not the Party of Lincoln - A Brief History. Part II: Progressive Boogaloo.

Both the Democrats and the Republics had factions to contend with, shaping how the parties attempted to govern and what was considered to be important issues. It is important to remember that not all members of a party have the same beliefs, especially in the 19th century - issues were not nearly as partisan then as they are now [Note 1]. The factions of today (Centerist/Moderate, Conservative, Liberal, Libertarian, Progressive) are not the names of yesteryear - the names that were in use at the time may be a bit confusing. There were also Third and Fourth parties at the time, which also were a factor in the political landscape, but the major players at the time were the Democrats and Republicans.

Somehow, there are those who who are still skeptical about harassment towards women [Content Warning]

Today, a friend of mine posted to her Facebook that there are some guys who she went to high school with who are skeptical that women are harassed or grabbed by strangers, and so she invited people, if they were comfortable, to share their stories. Despite the Yes All Women and Me Too campaigns, it seems that people (and let's be honest here, the hypermajority are men) are either not paying attention or not caring.

Patreon, Why Are You Doing This?

Patreon has announced a new service fee policy.

Supposedly, it is supposed to help Creators keep more money - however, this is at the expense of our Patrons. Right now, Creators pay a 5% fee + whatever fee is charged by our payment processors (in my case, PayPal); on December 18th, that will be changed so that Patrons will be paying 2.9% + 35 cents per pledge. TechCrunch has an article about this, with someone pointing out that "Pledging $100 to 1 creator will now cost $103.25 which is reasonable. Pledging $1 each to 100 creators will now cost $138 which is not reasonable."

This is not good news.

Here is Patreon's blog post about the what's happening and why: https://blog.patreon.com/updating-patreons-fee-structure/?_ga=2.131857487.1915026464.1512801843-1669255679.1501451341
Here is their FAQ: https://patreon.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/115005631963

I don't know anybody who is for this. I sure as hell am not. Of the Patreons that I currently follow and/or donate to, here are others who are against this as well:
Seanan McGuire (and another post from them)
Jackie Wohlenhaus (and another post from them)
Amanda Palmer
Laurie Penny
Jeph Jacques

In my honest opinion, this is fucked up.

If you can no longer support me on Patreon, I totally understand. I am going to look into other services to replace Patreon if they do not come to their senses. You all need to do what is best for your situations. It sucks that we are now at this juncture, and I hope that it gets resolved quickly.

I am looking into recurring payment options via PayPal.

I don't know if that is possible or not, but I hear rumor that it is. If you are interested in still supporting me, but not through Patreon, feel free to use PayPal or SquareCash.

Take care, all. Let's hope that this gets resolved soon.

My brain keeps changing "Soccer" to "Football"

For some reason, whenever people here in the United States are talking about soccer, I instinctively call it football. While it is a correct name for it, it is not what the sport is called here in the US.

Because I was curious as to why two different sports are called “football,” I looked it up on Wikipedia: football is a family of team sports where a ball is kicked to score a goal (even though an American football is most certainly not a ball shape [Note 1]). Wikipedia also listed the following sports as football, among others: association football (soccer), gridiron football (American and Canadian football), Australian rules football, rugby, and Gaelic football. Who knew [Note 2]?

However, I’m not a fan of football in all honesty. Any of them. And yet, I don’t call rugby “football” - just association football, against the North American norms. That is an odd situation - considering that I don’t live in an area, nor have I grown up in an area, where it would be considered normal to call association football “football.” That leads me to wonder, does anybody else do that?

Please leave a comment if you do and how people tend to react when you do.

Anyway, all of this comes to mind because the Superbowl is around the corner. And I live in the same metro area that the Superbowl will be in [Note 3].


Note 1: It is more of an egg shape. Some people (including me) call the sport “handegg” as a joke.
Note 2: I’m certain that a lot of people knew. I just happened to not be one of them.
Note 3: Superbowl LII will be held at that fucking Jawa Sandcrawler on February 4th, 2018. Run for the hills.


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The Superbowl is Coming

NaNoWriMo 2017 is over - back to regular blog posts!

Good afternoon, everybody!

NaNoWriMo 2017 is over, and though I did not meet the 50,000 word goal, I did beat my previous word record of 5,426. So I'm feeling very stoked about that! 5,500 words! I do plan on working on these stories that I've been writing, however, it is time to get back to my regular posting.


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In 3 days is 13th Amendment Day. Ratified on December 6th, 1865, the 13th Amendment slavery and involuntary servitude - however, Black Codes, white supremacist violence, red lining, and other factors have worked to prevent persons of color from having equal status in the United States. The 13th Amendment, though, was the first of the Reconstruction Amendments that began to transform the United States from "half slave and half free" (as Abraham Lincoln put it) to one where constitutional guarantees would apply to all citizens. 
The amendment states: “Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.” Read more about the history here: http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/thirteenth-amendment


I have a number of blog posts that are being worked on. Though my list of posts that are being worked on is available to Patreon Subscribers, I can say that I am still working on follow-ups posts to The GOP is not the Party of Lincoln - A Brief History. Part I: Whigged Beginnings and Sex and Gender Part I: The Structure of Sex. Plus, as MarsCon is coming up in March, and a number of friends and I are preparing panels for the convention, and I will be writing about them as I did for CONvergence 2017 (read Parts 1, 2, 3, 4, and Two Weeks Later). 


And that's some of what is coming up. There is more coming up in the next several days. Stay subscribed for more updates!


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I am on Patreon to help fund the work that goes into maintaining a website and creating researched content. Also, it will give me some financial relief as I am also endeavoring to complete a number of science fiction and fantasy stories, and hopefully compile them into zines or collected works. As a sponsor, you'll get quality blog posts, early access to completed stories, and the knowledge that you are helping me fund the creative process. I will get the benefit of some stress reduction as I won't have to worry about finances as much anymore, and that will help me be free to create more work.

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A lighter post - my top 10 favorite Science Fiction uniforms, ranked

2017 has been a difficult time for many people, including yours truly, and so I figured that it was time to have a lighter post. Also, as I have said before, I've been focused on NaNoWriMo this month and have not completed any of the posts that I have been working on. 

Sometime earlier in the week, I had the idea to rank my favorite science fiction uniforms from television and movies, and on Wednesday when I was laid-up with a migraine and unable to be creative, I jotted down the uniforms while I was no longer in pain. I decided to go ahead and talk a little about my top 10, and then list more uniforms that I like at the end. I will be getting back into more informational posts soon!

Please feel free to list your favorites in the comments! I would love to hear from you.


The following uniforms are listed from favorite to least favorite. I am only using uniforms from movies and television - no books, comics, or video games. Also, I am only including uniforms from shows and movies that I am very familiar with - there are many fandoms out there, and I do not know them all. These are all just a personal preference.

  1. Starfleet movie-era uniforms
  2. Earthforce uniforms from Babylon 5
  3. Colonial Military uniforms from Battlestar Galactica (RDM)
  4. Rebel Alliance uniform from the original Star Wars Trilogy
  5. Starfleet uniforms from Star Trek Beyond
  6. Starfleet uniforms from Star Trek: The Original Series
  7. Starfleet uniforms from the two Star Trek pilot episodes
  8. Starfleet uniforms from Star Trek and Star Trek Into Darkness
  9. Starfleet uniforms from Deep Space Nine/TNG movie era
  10. Starfleet uniforms from Deep Space Nine/Voyager

Starfleet, Earthforce, Colonial Military, Rebel Alliance - militaristic uniforms.

Nichelle Nichols as Commander Nyota Uhura in Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country

The uniforms that Starfleet issued during the movie era of Star Trek is my all-time favorite - they are sleek, have a coat and slacks combination with an awesome belt, maintain an easy way to recognize which department people belong to, have actual uniforms for enlisted/NCO personnel, and just plain look good. They have a very uniform feel to them, more so than Star Trek ever had before or after. 

Lt. Cdr. Ivanova, Cdr. Sinclair, and CWO Garibaldi in a promotional shot for Babylon 5

Babylon 5 and Battlestar Galactica maintain more of a specifically military structure in their series, and that is something that very much appeals to me. Also, while Star Wars is not focused so much on the military, the Rebel Alliance has a military structure to it while it seeks legitimacy.
Though I am very much an explorer, I love the structure that the military provides. And military uniforms provide a sense of commonality and solidarity, as well as set a mood. A well-designed uniform sticks out, looks sharp, and gives a sense of purpose, as well as makes it easy to identify what a person does or at least what organization a person represents. And these four franchise uniforms very successful at all of these criteria. Also, each of these uniforms have appropriate variants for different levels of formality, mission types, and climates.
All of these uniforms are just fantastic.

Promotional shot of Lieutenant Anastasia "Dee" Dualla from Battlestar Galactica

Captain Antilles between takes during filming of Star Wars


Starfleet, Starfleet, Starfleet, and Starfleet - a classic design.

Lieutenant Nyota Uhura on Altamid during Star Trek Beyond

Star Trek Beyond took the classic design of the Starfleet uniform and somehow improved upon it. With smooth lines, bright colors, different types depending on one's needs and comfort, the uniforms in Beyond have done well. 
Star Trek: The Original Series and Star Trek: The Animated Series is the classic, the trendsetter that set the course of uniforms for Star Trek and one of the major influences for our imaginations. The uniform's bright colors were friendly, expressing Starfleet's mission of peace, while also maintaining the uniform's purpose of identifying what organizations people are with and creating a source of commonality and solidarity. It was an idealistic uniform for an idealistic era.
However, the uniforms from the pilot episodes of Star Trek is what launched it all. Though the colors are muted, it set the slack and tunic trend of a simplistic design that also spoke volumes. Though the following episodes improved upon the design, these uniforms still hold a special place.

Publicity shot of Lt. Uhura, Dr. McCoy, Cdr. Spock, and Cpt. Kirk for Star Trek

The uniform designs for the first two reboot Star Trek movies, though, fall somewhat short - they tried very hard to copy and update from the original uniforms, and they almost made it. Unfortunately, they made some unfortunate decisions with the skirt uniforms - the absence of the sleeves and the placement of virtually every female character on screen meant that no woman had a rank until a man gave it to her. Though I have many, many issues with the first two reboot movies, and I will have to go into detail in another post.

Captain Pike and Lieutenant Spock during The Cage

Acting First Officer Kirk, Dr McCoy, Unnamed Crewwoman, Acting Captain Spock, and Lieutenant Sulu during the Star Trek reboot. I have so many complaints.


Doing More With Less

The uniforms of Deep Space Nine, Voyager, and the TNG-era films are a departure from what we had grown accustomed to. They kept to the uniform style of The Next Generation, except making most of the torso black and moving the color to the shoulder, and then eventually to the undershirt. These uniforms are very sharp and very Star Trek while using a minimum of colors.

Dr. Crusher, Cpt. Picard, Cdr. Riker, and Lt. Cdr. La Forge during Star Trek Nemesis

Lt. Cdr. Worf, Dr. Bashir, and SCPO O'Brien in the brig after Worf patronized a business where the workers were on strike during the episode Bar Association


For those who are interested, the remaining contenders on my list, ranked, are:

  1. Planetary Union uniforms
  2. Starfleet uniforms from Star Trek: The Next Generation Seasons 3-7
  3. Resistance uniform from the third Star Wars Trilogy
  4. Imperial Military uniform from the original Star Wars Trilogy
  5. Bajoran Militia uniform from Deep Space Nine
  6. First Order uniform from the third Star Wars Trilogy
  7. Starfleet uniforms from Enterprise
  8. Starfleet uniforms of the mid-2160s
  9. Starfleet uniforms of the 2230s
  10. Starfleet uniforms from Discovery
  11. Galaxy Quest uniforms
  12. Starfleet uniforms from Star Trek: The Motion Picture
  13. Starfleet uniforms from The Next Generation Seasons 1 & 2

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2017 Elections Are Even Closer!

2017 Elections Are Even Closer!

As you may have read on a previous blog post (or have seen signs around your neighborhood), it is election time once again. Tuesday, November 7th is the day for elections in the State of Minnesota - not every state has elections this year, let alone every municipality in Minnesota, so please make certain to check out your local Secretary of State (or local equivalent) websites. Minnesotans, for more precise information (including where to vote), please go to our Secretary of State's ballot finder. What I am posting here is very general information, and there will be exceptions. For example, some Eden Prairie, Edina, Plymouth, and Saint Louis Park residents, as well as about half of Golden Valley residents and most of Minnetonka residents will be voting for the Hopkins School Board. At the same time, Minnetonka Schools serves Minnetonka, Chanhassen, Deephaven, Eden Prairie, Excelsior, Greenwood, Shorewood, Tonka Bay, Victoria, and Woodland, whereas the Saint Louis Park School District is entirely within the city of Saint Louis Park. So always check the ballot finder first!

Me Too - Stories, Complicity, and Resources [Content Warning]

Content Warning: This post talks about sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Cowriting this piece is Emaelia Norman: I asked her to write with me because I generally present as male, and sexual assault is most prominently an issue for women, AFAB persons [Note 1], and those who are femme presenting. I do not want to distract from the conversation, but rather add to it in a meaningful and honest manner. Emaelia is the creator of the webcomics Death Child and Rowin Redd.

I am a cisgender, bisexual female. I come from a place of privilege as a white, cisgendered, middle-class person. I have however, like far too many people, been subject to sexual violence from a very young age. I’ve agreed to co-write this post with Justin as much to help others to cope with their experiences as to help me cope with my own.


Found on the internet.

For those of us who have endured sexual violence, movements like “me too” give us a chance to share our stories. This is a way for some people to come to terms with how they’ve been hurt, to heal, or just to feel some relief by sharing these moments that make us question humanity. 

The “me too” campaign was created in 2006 by Tarana Burke to help women and girls (particularly women and girls of color) who had survived sexual violence [6], and then went viral on social media in October 2017 when Alyssa Milano tweeted “me too” [2] and encouraged others to write it as their status. The sheer number of people posting "me too" has been to some an unsettling reminder of the staggering statistics already showing that sexual violence is a commonplace reality: “in the U.S., about 1 in 3 women (36.3%) and nearly 1 in 6 men (17.1%) experienced some form of contact sexual violence (SV) during their lifetime” [9] [Note 2]. Burke’s campaign’s motto is “Empowerment through empathy” [3], letting people know that they are not alone and that it is possible to heal. And healing is possible.

Found on the internet.

But we must also heal as a culture. That requires self-reflection and finding the root of the problem. People have said that talking about sexual harassment and sexual assault at the same time conflates the issue to seem bigger than it really is. And sexual violence in every form contributes to rape culture. The repetition of events and ideas normalizes them and leads to more extreme versions of those same events and ideas, which then also become normalized. Every time a man sexually harasses a woman and other men in the vicinity do not speak up about it, they are giving that man permission to do it again. Every time a man sexually assaults a woman and the people she tells do not believe her, they are giving him a way to avoid the consequences of his actions. Every time someone jokes about sexual violence, they normalize sexual violence. 


Found on the internet.

Now, we want to be clear: SEXUAL VIOLENCE CAN HAPPEN TO ANYBODY. We are not ignoring that. However, if the only time you talk about male survivors is when you are interrupting women/enby/femme persons who are talking about their own experiences, then it is not because you care about male survivors. Rather, it is because the rape culture perpetuated by the pervasive sexual violence in our society has conditioned you to dismiss and silence survivors who challenge the status quo.

There is a definite misogynistic component to rape culture - most women and girls limit their behavior because of the existence of rape [5], but many men don’t report being raped because of fear of being outed as gay [1], or out of fear of being labeled as gay [4], or feeling like they have lost their manhood [4]. It comes from the patriarchal idea that men are sexual aggressors and women are inferior to men, which translates into the idea that men who are sexually violated are as inferior as women.


As a society, we need to teach boys and men [Note 3] to not commit sexual violence. We should remember that jokes have great power [8] that reflect what we are thinking and are the basis of the actions that we make. We must stop allowing it to be prevalent in television shows and in pop culture [7]. And we must hold people accountable for their actions.
Children and young men learn by example. 

The best way to support a survivor when they are talking about an assault or other experience is to listen. Don’t give advice unless specifically asked and don’t compare a third party’s experiences. If you’re a survivor and want to share your story online like others, you can tweet or post on your own rather than detracting from someone else’s posts.

Found on the internet from Lindy West.

While we encourage survivors to come forward, we also must hold them under no obligation to do so, particularly in the public eye. Victims are often held accountable for their perpetrator's actions, whether in their own silence or through critical remarks from the public about what they could have or should have done to protect themselves. It is up to the perpetrators to stop perpetrating, not the victims to stop having to live with the consequences of perpetrators.



Notes:

Found on the internet.

  1. AFAB: Assigned Female At Birth. Regardless of one’s gender or sex, a person who was assigned a sex at their time of birth.
     
  2. The statistic for both women and men was used here intentionally because the Center for Disease Control and Prevention only recorded information as a female/male binary, with no mention that could be found about intersex persons or persons of other genders. Also, it should be noted that the numbers used are for the 50 states and DC, with no mention of the US Territories.
     
  3. “Boys and men” was intentionally used here, as the NISVS 2010-2012 Average Annual Estimates of Sex of Perpetrator in Lifetime Reports of Sexual Violence say that 97% of female victims were raped by male perpetrators alone, while 86.5% of male victims were raped by male perpetrators alone [9] (meaning that 91.75% of all victims reported male perpetrators alone).

Personal Experiences:
As told by Emaelia:

Me too. I’ve been hurt by men I trusted. I’ve been terrified by complete strangers. It has never had to do with how I was dressed or where I was. It usually happens in public places in broad daylight, when I’m doing something on my own like reading or waiting for a bus.

I was sexually harassed online by a man ten years my senior for over a year when I was fifteen and sixteen. The man groomed me. He made me think he cared about me, and then spent months wearing me down until I gave in to participate in his sick fantasies. It took me years to untangle myself from the confusion he caused me. Facebook recently recommended that man as a friend. I almost vomited. 

A stranger put his hand on my leg while I sat reading in a park in the afternoon, asking me what my plans were for the evening. 

While stopped at a crosswalk on my way to class, a man put his arm around me and asked several times for my number. 

At the train station an old man caressed my arm, followed me to the bathroom, and insisted on kissing me before I boarded the train.

Another man pretended to fall while on the bus so he could “catch himself” on my breasts.

A man pinched my butt three times in a row while on a crowded metro, only stopping when I turned around and audibly growled at him, making everyone else stare. 

Me too.

Once, while on the train, riding home one night, a man started to harass me. I had accidentally made eye-contact, which he took as an invitation to talk to me. I tried to be polite. He was a large man and the train was nearly empty. For what seemed like ages but was only about two minutes, this man stood over me and tried to flirt. I tried to oblige, visibly terrified. The only other person on the car was another man. He noticed my distress and intervened. He starting chatting up this other man just as the train pulled into a stop. Relieved, I jumped off. I don’t know that the larger man would have hurt me. I will never know that. But I do know that I felt much more at ease knowing that another person had my back. That other man saw my distress and helped in a way that put no one in danger. 
Men like that give me hope. It was a small act of kindness, but it helped.

As told by Justin:
Me too, and I'm complicit, and I've joined in. All three.

When I was 5, there was the rich white boy in class whose mom wanted him to have some Black Friends. I was nominated. One day, my clothes got soaked (nearly drowned - different story), and his mom gave me some of his clothes to wear. He kept watching me change, which made me uncomfortable, but she wouldn't do anything about it. My options were to change in front of him, or to change in the dark closet.
Me too.

In middle school, some boys were chanting something about one of the girls in a day camp I was at, and I was halfheartedly going along with it because I was afraid.
I did.

When I was in high school, one of the guys called me over to him and asked me to turn around. "See ladies," he said, "that is a Black butt." I was shocked and confused and didn't say anything.
Me too.

In high school, same boy was showing pictures of girls, friends of his, in their underwear around without their permission. I didn't tell him that it was wrong, though I felt uncomfortable.
I'm complicit.

In high school, someone slapped my butt without my consent. I told him that if he ever did that again that I would report him. He did it again, and so I reported him.
Me too - but this time I also had enough energy to stand up, and enough fortune to be believed.

In my twenties, friends of mine were dancing, and strange men started getting close to them. I did not recognize what was happening until other friends intervened.
I'm complicit.

Found on the internet

In my thirties, some guy started touching me because he liked the clothes that I was wearing. I gave him such a look that he instantly backed off.
Me too - though my size and perceived gender had given me an advantage.

In my twenties, I was hurting and reached out for comfort, but I did not make certain that my friend was in a position to help me.
I did.

In my thirties, a drunk fellow whom I had never met before started groping me. He was friends with friends of mine, and I was shocked into not saying anything. And so I didn't.
Me too.

In my twenties, I bore witness to street harassment, and said nothing.
I'm complicit.

In my twenties, I gave consent to sex and later discovered that I only gave my consent under false pretenses. Multiple times.
Me too.

I can't say that I'll never freeze up again. And I can never pay back the pain that I've caused. But I can take forward action and not be complicit. I can use the advantage of my perceived gender and call out harassment when I see it, intervene when people need help. I can continue to believe those who have been harassed, teach others not to harass, and be a force to be reckoned with.


If you like what you read here, and would like to show your support, please consider donating.

I am on Patreon to help fund the work that goes into maintaining a website and creating researched content. Also, it will give me some financial relief as I am also endeavoring to complete a number of science fiction and fantasy stories, and hopefully compile them into zines or collected works. As a sponsor, you'll get quality blog posts, early access to completed stories, and the knowledge that you are helping me fund the creative process. I will get the benefit of some stress reduction as I won't have to worry about finances as much anymore, and that will help me be free to create more work.

It's not always possible to sponsor on a monthly basis. If you would like to do a one time donation, please feel free to use PayPal or SquareCash. Producing content takes time and effort, and any support would be most appreciated. Your donations help me cover expenses and eventually will let me be able to create quality content full-time.



Works Cited:

  1. Eastmond, Dean. “I was raped by another man. Heres why Ive decided to write about it.” The Independent, Independent Digital News and Media, 7 Dec. 2015, www.independent.co.uk/voices/why-ive-decided-to-talk-about-being-raped-by-another-man-a6730586.html.
     
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NaNoWriMo is upon us!

NaNoWriMo is upon us. National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) is a 30-day event in November where people attempt to write a 50,000 word novel. Their Mission Statement is:

National Novel Writing Month believes in the transformational power of creativity. We provide the structure, community, and encouragement to help people find their voices, achieve creative goals, and build new worlds—on and off the page.
— https://nanowrimo.org/about

I have been participating in NaNoWriMo since 2011. In that time, I have tried my hand at various Science Fiction and Fantasy tales. This year, as a motivator, I am going to try something different: you all will have the opportunity to see my progress as I go. As I'm writing, I will be posting what I am writing to my Patreon for $1+ sponsors. If I complete stories, they will be available for early download for $10+ sponsors.

I will be dedicating a good deal of my mental resources towards writing for NaNoWriMo throughout November. There will still be blog posts, of course, but they may be shorter than usual. But this will be a fun time! Check out my NaNoWriMo page here: https://nanowrimo.org/participants/justin-grays


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I am on Patreon to help fund the work that goes into maintaining a website and creating researched content. Also, it will give me some financial relief as I am also endeavoring to complete a number of science fiction and fantasy stories, and hopefully compile them into zines or collected works. As a sponsor, you'll get quality blog posts, early access to completed stories, and the knowledge that you are helping me fund the creative process. I will get the benefit of some stress reduction as I won't have to worry about finances as much anymore, and that will help me be free to create more work.

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